To sum up:
- Sit at the table
- Make your partner a real partner
- Don't leave before you leave
One more point: I know it's not popular to bring up these days, but I really wish she'd at least acknowledged that there are institutional forces at work too, aka "I'm comfortable with helping people who are like me, and you, Miss, are not." Yes, women need to bear responsibility for our own actions and choices, but not everything is under our control or a result of something we can affect.